1. “Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” – Mark Twain
Valuable people in your life should always value you, too. Otherwise respect can only be one-sided and that isn’t healthy in a relationship.
2. “Never love anybody who treats you like you’re ordinary.” – Oscar Wilde
You are a unique person with special qualities. Maybe not everyone can see that. That’s fine, not everyone will like you. But if someone special to you doesn’t appreciate your uniqueness, then they may not deserve your love.
3. The people that are quick to walk away are the ones who didn’t intend to stay.
Relationships come with their own struggles. They are not easy and that’s the way it is. Couples need to be patient with each other as they sort out their problems. If someone bails on you just because of problems that are natural and normal in relationships, maybe they don’t deserve your time.
4. “Just because a relationship ends, it doesn’t mean it’s not worth having.” – Sarah Mylnowski
Relationships are learning experiences. Being with the right or even wrong people teach us more about who we are, where we are strong and where we have drawbacks. Healthy relationships encourage growth of self and make you a better person. Notice how your standards change after every break up. The more you know who you are, the more you know who you want to be with. Failed relationships are not a waste of time.
5. Love is worth fighting for, but not if you’re the only one fighting.
It’s why people choose to sort out their problems in relationships. Love is worth it. If you’re the only one who is trying, then your partner wasn’t valuing your love enough to try fighting for it. It hurts, but it’s for the best.
6. It’s OK to break up and still appreciate the time you spent with someone else.
If you found a relationship fulfilling and you cherish the memories you shared with that individual, that is OK, even if you believe they don’t feel the same way. There’s nothing wrong with cherishing a relationship for what it was, even if it ends.
7. Hearts will never be practical until they are made unbreakable – Wizard of Oz
This is the cost of opening up. The wonderful feelings that come with loving and being loved by someone come with a risk, being hurt. The reward for that risk is love and acceptance. If your heart can’t be broken, that means it can’t love either. You can’t open yourself for a hug without leaving yourself vulnerable so make sure you show your vulnerabilities to the right people.