Sometimes reading an inspirational quote can plant a seed that will help us on our journey in self-development, other times it’s just what we need to hear and gives us the motivation necessary for us to keep pushing through. Here are three essential quotes from M. Scott Peck, the author of The Road Less Traveled, and a personalized breakdown of their meanings:
“There can be no vulnerability without risk; there can be no community without vulnerability; there can be no peace, and ultimately no life, without community.”
Healthy communities are necessary for the growth of individuals and communities that don’t allow vulnerability can be considered toxic. Surrounding yourself with toxic people who put you down guarantees that your growth as a person will hinder. Finding the right group of people who allow you to be vulnerable is essential for your well being.
“Problems do not go away. They must be worked through or else they remain, forever a barrier to the growth and development of the spirit.”
It is crucial that we take responsibility for our problems because ultimately no one else will. Even if someone else were to solve your “external” issues physically, the internal challenge of being an irresponsible person remains and can only be resolved by you. You have to take responsibility for yourself and your life to ensure that you continue to grow into the person you were meant to be.
“Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.”
How we live can be seen as a reflection of how we think of ourselves and our self-worth. People who have low self-esteem tend to believe their time is worthless and thus would not invest in doing anything with it.
A common mistake for a person with low self-esteem to make is to assume that the goals they set out to accomplish are not good enough because they don’t feel motivated to do them, thus they look for other more ‘worthy’ goals that they feel they would like to do. But, ofcourse, when they attempt to tackle the new goals, the motivation they previously had is either weak or not strong enough.
This is a result of low self-esteem affecting what we tell ourselves. It could be different for everybody. Some people think they can’t accomplish anything or that they’re bound to fail (they don’t believe in themselves). Some are afraid of what people think (friends, relatives, strangers) and are too embarrassed to do something new or different OR they don’t want people to know they attempted to do something, but then failed (they don’t want to take responsibility for their actions).
When you value yourself regardless of what happens to you, then you don’t measure your worth by failures, success or what people consider to be failures or success. You already love and accept yourself, so failing is not going to get in the way of that.