Who Needs Anger Management Strategies?
If you are someone who frequently has fits of rage or is generally considered hot-tempered by people around you, you can benefit from anger management strategies.
There is nothing wrong with anger in itself, but usually people can feel when it starts becoming a problem; for example, if it is just happening too often or even when it leads to violence.
A Few Practical Anger Management Strategies
- Make it a point to separate yourself from what's happening at the moment by taking some time to yourself. Do something like take a walk or listen to some music for a while by yourself, before you act on your anger.
- Talk about it with someone close to you, or the person you're angry with. You are the only person who can really control your anger outbursts, and in order to successfully do this, you'll need to work on losing any pride and admitting that you are having the issue. You can start by calmly disclosing why you are feeling hurt, fearful, irritated, or whatever the reason might be. This will allow you to start working through it rather than acting on it.
- Try to take some time and evaluate the cause of the anger in any given situation. You'll need to really understand how your mind works, and what types of things tend to trigger your anger. That way, you can dissect it and see how your thoughts contribute to making you more and more angry at the moment.
- Be sure to exercise regularly — this can be a great way to get out any type of negative energy.
Consider mindfulness, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and/or seeing a therapist
Mindfulness has become quite a popular topic lately, and with consistency, it can be very effective for all sorts of emotional issues and also just in learning more about yourself.
There is a great deal of value in learning to give less focus to our thoughts and more to the present moment. It allows us to tap into a part of our brains and gain insight that we might not otherwise.
It also will allow you to develop the habit of separating yourself from your thoughts, which will make it infinitely easier over time to not get so angry over things that are happening.
There are also many therapists that can help you with strategies in dealing with your anger. Mindfulness or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy might just be something that they recommend as part of their strategies.
The bottom line is, as with most things, to recognize and accept that there is a problem first and then be able to consciously put effort into making it better. Even just a tiny improvement over a period of time is a big deal — as it will show you that you can indeed make changes happen!