Becoming a new parent
You are getting ready for one of the most significant events that you will experience. You may not feel ready; you maybe not concerned about how will your relationship with your partner and parent’s will affect you.
Remember! Nobody born with parenting skills. We have to learn it through trial, error, and experiences.
- Keep a parenting journal with you to keep in touch with yourself emotionally. You can begin in your pregnancy notes.
- Write down how you feel, about your childhood, hopes and dream with your child.
- Write Down your frustrations, fears, and anger as well as your joy.
Don't have to share this journal with anyone; it's for you!
Talk with your partner
It's always good to take note and talk with your partner about parenting; you may have different expectations of how should you raise your children. And make sure to give a good effort in this because it will help you and your child.
Also, it's good to talk to other parents and take a look at their experiences so you can get some benefit.
Potty training marks the end of nappies and the beginning of knickers or underpants. It is the end of babyhood and the start of toddlerhood.
REMEMBER: start potty training when your child is ready.
Usually, 24 months for girls and up to 36 months for boys. Other children are fully trained at one year, but this particular case is not an indicator of a child’s intelligence. So be calm!
Potty Training Steps
What you have to know first, is that you have to dedicate several days for this period to adapt your child to this new act in his life.
Points to consider:
- Summer clothes tend to be easier to wash, so you will not be very upset whenever an accident happens.
- Encourage your child to tell you when they have wet their nappy.
- Teach them how to pull down their pants, and make them do so alone, they will love to do things by themselves.
- Try to train your child to sit on the putty in a certain period regularly each day, like when they wake up, before they sleep, or after lunch.
- Don't force your child to sit for a long time, don't make him hate the idea. Keep hem for minutes and take him off if he doesn't do anything.
- Be patient, sometimes it takes only one week, but it can last for months for your kid to adapt entirely to his new situation.
- Don't ever punish your child if he forgets to tell you about a bathroom, BE PATIENT!!
- You can use a modified toilet instead of a putty if he likes it more, he will feel that he grew up and he started to look and act like you.
- Try to get a putty or modified toilet with a color that your child loves.
- Try to put the putty in the bathroom and not in the bedroom, so he adapts to the idea of a toilet, also, psychologically and morally it's better to train your child that his bedroom is not the bathroom!
- Praise your children when they try to use the putty or the bathroom even if they fail.
- As a reminder, don't even think to punish in any way!!!
Types of bed wetting:
- Primary nocturnal enuresis: children bedwetting who have never been dry at night.
- Secondary nocturnal enuresis: children bedwetting who had dry nights for at least six months in the past.
Kids do bedwetting in the age of five or older because they are not able to control bladder muscles. Before this usually its normal that your 3-4 years old child is still adapting to the idea of a toilet.
You may notice that most child or pre-teens have stopped bedwetting by the time they reach puberty.
How to avoid bedwetting?
1. Encourage your child with a stars table. Especially for younger children.
Get a funny calendar and stick a star for each dry knight, and tell your child that he may get a prise or a toy for every 10 Stars.
2. Setting Alarms.
Alarms teach your child to get up and use the toilet rather than wetting the bed.
Using a moisture alarm that fires up when it contacts urine, will alarm your child to wake up and go to the toilet and change his clothes if needed.
This operation may help him to wake up regularly each day to go to the toilet.
Also, you may use a regular clock alarm each night to wake your child and go to the toilet.
The TV seems to take much time (multiple hours) which is very bad for the children's physical and mental health.
When we say television, we mean everything children are using to watch on, like mobile phones, computers, and tablets.
You may say that Television and watching may have excellent benefits for children's like education, entertainment, or maybe learning new languages.
But on the other hand, watching television may lead to hazardous effects like:
- Curbing Physical Activity
- Vision problems
- Negative impact on social relations.
- Effects of Brain Development And Behavior.
- Gives A Distorted View Of The World
What can you do?
It's very important to work around this problem if you care about your child future. Here is what you can do:
Choose The Right TV Shows
Do some research about the content and the moral messages behind each one, so you can choose the content that suits your children. Here are some factors to consider:
- The content must be appropriate for your child’s age.
- Shorter duration. The longer the watch period is, the more the chances of them getting addicted.
- Try to Block Ads.
- Encourage your child to watch educational shows and programs by sitting together and watch.
Limit Watch Time
Try your best to limit the time and hours spent on watching. Here’s how:
- No television during mealtime: Do not allow your kids to watch TV while they are eating.
- Remove the TV from the bedroom.
- Don't use the TV as a babysitter: When you are busy, you may not be able to monitor what the kids are watching, and that can expose them to inappropriate content.
- Set TV time rules for school days: set specific time and periods for watching TV.
- Try to fill up your child's day with other activities( sports, park, shopping, or any other entertaining activities).
Make It A Family Activity
Make watching TV a fun family activity, instead of a means to pass the time. That will discourage your children to watch it when they are bored or alone at home.
Children Home explorations and mess!
All parents know that when their child grows up a little ( 1-2 Years), he/She starts to explore everything.
And the first things they try to explore is everything they see in Home!
In this period, you have to consider two things:
- Take care of dangerous places and things that your child may try to play with and explore (knives, high chairs, medicine, electric sockets)
- Don't try to stop your child from exploring, but try to manage it.
It's a good practice to make a place in your home for your child, where he can do whatever he wants in, Like in his room.
Try to teach him that he can explore whatever he wants in his room, like wall painting (you can use specific cover or board), or playing with clothes and his closet, or anything else that is safe for him to explore alone.
- Move all your vases, antiques, and related things to a place where he can't see or reach until your child is mature enough to understand the word "No."
- Try to create clear paths through the room so they can move safely.
- Avoid using lamp cords; your child may find it funny to pull a small lamp from the table.
- Beware of free-standing lights that your child can push over.
Here are some tips to make your child stick to a specific bedtime.
- Tell children when bedtime is approaching. Let them know an hour, then half an hour before, and so on. When you mention the time, let it be in a neutral tone, rather than saying it sounds like threat or warning.
- Introduce a small alarm clock for small children to ring a bedtime.
- Children are hard to get sleep after doing hectic activities. Children should spend the hour before bedtime doing quiet activities.
- The last half an hour, children need to spend getting ready for bed, having a bath, brushing their teeth and putting on their pajamas.
- It's good to sing them a song or read an entertaining story for them.
- Make a special blanket or toy for his bed.
- Kiss them, and tell them that we will see each other tomorrow and talk to about what you will do.
Children who cry in bed
Once you have found out the cause of your children crying, avoid staying longer or taking them to go to bed with you. Children will cry for attention. But this is hardly happening if they spend enough time with you during the day.
Children who get out of the bed regularly
Children get up comes a lot of reason for getting out of bed: drink, snack, nightmares, and monsters. Do some conversation or cuddles can support their notion of getting out from the bed is rewarding. Praise them for something that they are doing right.
You have to know that your kids follow your acts, so if you waste your time they will be raised on spending time, if you read, they will be readers.
If you read to your children, you will increase their concentration, attention, and imagination levels. Also, you will boost there written and spoken communication skills.
Reading can develop a child’s imagination and increase their vocabulary. Books provide a lot of pf information. Children not only develop literacy skills but also strengthens emotional bonds and builds self-confidence.
Tips to follow:
- Encourage family and friends to give books as presents.
- Don't feel crazy if you read to your baby, he might not understand your words, but it will develop his attention and communication skills.
- Make sure your children see you reading regularly.
- Dedicate a special place for reading with good lighting and a comfortable place to sit. In this way, your child will bond books and reading to a particular place where he loves to be.
- Allow your child to choose a book that he likes.
- When you read stories to your kids, bring it to life with some sound effects and funny faces.
- Encourage your child to flip between papers and ask you about what he sees.
- Bring your children to the library as a routine every 2-3 weeks.
Open Communication and Listening
We communicate with each other through gestures, facial expressions, body language, and eye contact.
Communicating with our children especially teenagers can be challenging. We need to accept that they are changing to adults and trying to develop their view of this world.
Make sure to dedicate a particular time to give full attention to your child when he is talking to you, listen to him and interact.
Don't just listen while you are doing other daily tasks; he will feel that he is not very important to you. You must let him think that what he is saying is very important and reply with this sense.
Don't be afraid to share your point of view with your daughter, be flexible and listen to her opinion and how she sees things.
Always be positive while talking to your kids, don't be negative so you may create a negative mindset in them.
Don't treat them as you know everything better than them, treat your children idea's with respect, YOU MAY BE WRONG!, and you may learn things from them.
Praise them when they help you or give you a bright idea, and when you do so don't add words like "but" or their negativity.