It’s easy to look at our thoughts as just words in our head that have little effect on our actions, but psychologists know that this assumption is a huge mistake.
The Power Of Words
Our Inner dialogue has positive and negative consequences on our mood and behavior. Simply repeating “I’m not good enough” on a daily basis to yourself, consciously or unconsciously, will make you believe that you are not worthy and lower your self-esteem.
You might have heard, or even made fun of, the fact that many psychologists prescribe positive self-talk (like saying “I love you” to your reflection) to people with low self-esteem. There could be several reasons for this:
1. You think words are just letters put together that don’t have much effect.
2. You laugh at the idea of someone needing to remind themselves that they love who they are.
Number 2 is something everyone with high self-esteem practices, whether they know it or not. Sure, they may not stand infront of a mirror and say, “I love you,” but they constantly tell themselves , “I can do it”, “I’m worthy”, “I deserve this”…etc.
What We Tell Ourselves Influences Our Actions
You can bet the opposite is true for people with low self-esteem. Observe yourself and others and try to imagine what people are telling themselves before they do something.
Imagine a confident friend of yours is offered a higher-paying position with more responsibility. Now imagine they jump on that position immediately. What do you think they told themselves before choosing to take the oppurtunity? “I’m not worthy of getting this amount of money and responsibility”? Ofcourse not! It would be more like, “Yes! Finally! I deserve this!”